I was watching the episode of Sex and the City where Carrie tried to leave a few things at Bigs appartement and he gave them back to her and she confronted him about it and asked what his opinion was on living arrangements with couples. He was all about the ‘separate togetherness’ where men and women have their own places and live their own lives. She spoke about woody allen and his wife so out of curiosity I did a bit of research and here is what I found.
‘Allen and Farrow lead their own lives, while continuing a relationship that is the longest either has had. By any standard, it is not a conventional union. They are not married, neither do they live together; their apartments face each other across Central Park. When they began to date, they would wave towels out the window as they spoke on the phone, delighting in saying they could see the other. Her apartment — which in addition to nine children and a nanny is home to two cats, a canary, a parakeet, several chinchillas and assorted tropical fish — was used for her scenes in “Hannah and Her Sisters,” which Allen directed in 1986.
“It’s sort of like just enough,” Allen explains one day in his Fifth Avenue apartment, a duplex penthouse with country furniture and a wraparound view of Manhattan and all of Central Park. “Perhaps if we were to live together or if we met at a different time in our lives it wouldn’t work. But it seems to be just right. I have all the free time I want and it’s quiet over here, and yet I get plenty of action over there. I think it’s because we don’t live together and that she has her own life completely and that I have mine that we’re able to maintain this relationship with a certain proper tension. If we got married years ago and lived together, maybe now we’d be screaming, ‘What have we gotten into?’ These things are so exquisitely tuned. It’s just luck.”
After 12 years together, Allen and Farrow separated in 1992 after Farrow discovered nude photographs that Allen had taken of Soon-Yi.’
It makes sense to have a relationship like that, maybe not for that long but it makes the most sense…